When to become exclusive in dating
Plenty of our 21st-century dating rituals are painfully drawn out.We spend weeks using measured pickup lines on dating apps, months remaining in undefined gray areas, and some of us even put off the idea of "the one" for years in favor of casual sex.
According to a Google Consumer Survey conducted by Mic of 3,058 individuals in February, the most common timetable for having the "exclusive" talk in a relationship was less than four weeks. If four weeks sounds surprisingly short, it actually isn't. It's that the dating game has changed — maybe for the better. If you’re a highly sexual person and dating someone who is uncomfortable with sex, this could spell trouble in the long run. Talk about it and find out if you’re on the same page.If your partner only talks a good talk, but doesn’t walk the walk, take it as a red flag that trustworthiness may not be one of their strong points.Do you continue to share more intimate details with each other over time, and find that you can trust your partner with this information?Growing together in this vulnerable way will help your relationship flourish.
Few would disagree that healthy, clear communication is a key to a relationship that will last.
I would like to know that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else and won’t be sleeping with anyone else while we are sleeping together.
Should I have the “defining the relationship” conversation with him or should I wait and allow things to evolve more?
So you’ve met someone who’s grown on you, and you’re thinking it might be time to make it official. If this wasn’t there at the start, it isn’t going to appear later.
Before you delete that online profile, here are a few things to ask yourself to make sure you’re diving in with the right partner. Is his personality aligned with what he shows you and the rest of the world? If you’re dating someone who struggles with being authentic with you, it can be a challenge to build a genuine partnership. If you’re not ready to let down your guard with each other, it might be a good idea to wait it out before you make that commitment to be exclusive. The key is whether you’re sexually compatible with your partner. If sex is important, you want the flame of desire to be present, or you may find yourself going through the motions of sex and resenting it later on. If you don’t have trust, it becomes impossible to grow into a committed relationship.
So how can one month of six dates turn into an exclusive relationship? People tend to spend at least three to four hours on a good date (and that's a conservative estimate), which means after six dates (assuming no sleepovers), you've spent almost 24 hours together.