Ten simple rules for dating
Does the thought of having a no-strings-attached relationship excite you?A committed relationship is like a warm blanket of comfort.
To avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10 insights. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... " So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them.Yes, I’d be happy to share the best friends with benefits rules so you can hook up without things being complicated.It’s certainly possible, but it requires that you look at things honestly and set clear boundaries for yourself. (aka: how to have a friends with benefits arrangement without drama, difficulty, or disaster) This means no neighbors, no co-workers, no ex-boyfriends, no guys that are currently your friend and no people within your social circle.and when it ends, it needs to be clean without loose ends (for you or for him).Now, I understand that some of you might be reading this article specifically because you are sleeping with a friend and you want it to become something more.When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities.
There are three basic ways we connect with another person: Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide.
Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do? This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to intimacy.
How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to? The Torah obligates the husband to meet the intimate needs of his wife. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes this area.
But at times, all you want is the reckless rush of a rollercoaster ride that gives you a high and a racing heart, makes you feel dazed and confused, and leaves you back on square one at the end of it all.
As good as it sounds, true love isn’t always the answer for everyone.
Both the people involved in the relationship are just in it for the moment, until something or someone better comes along.