Dating in nowadays
Yet even without an official ‘boyfriend’ there are normally several text conversations with potential beaus buzzing away on my phone.I also tend to have a few guys on a low-level stalk on Facebook, and there’s always that frisson of excitement when an attractive man retweets one of my ‘LOLz-ier’ status updates. I wasn’t the only one of my girlfriends to leave early that night.
I should preface the rest of this blog by saying that I don't know much about men's views of the dating world, as it's not part of my research, so I'm going to focus on women here.As part of that work, I have asked women about their perceptions of the dating market - what they have to do to acquire a good prospect in light of the fact that there are other women out there trying to win the same prize.A comment I routinely hear is that they greatly dislike the dating scene today.Such a rule did not hold in my time, at least not among the people I knew. The only women any of us ever saw were women that were dating our friends.If it were not permissible to date them in our turn, we would have had no one to date.The kind of dances performed then required holding each other, which put those of us who were shy at a disadvantage.
Otherwise, a fellow and a girl would be “fixed up” on a blind date by a mutual friend.
Okay, Facebook is great when you meet someone at a party or whatever, because it helps you maintain some form of contact if you don’t want to date this person right away for whatever reason. Used to be, when you got a girl’s number, you had a finite amount of time to call her or you’d blow your chance.
Now, you can just friend her, send her a message or like a post every now and then and string things out till Judgment Day.
The biggest problem with Facebook is the bullshit factor. Back in the early days of Match.com, most of us thought that shit was for losers.
We all carefully craft how we want to be perceived by others, and then just try to live up to that image in real life. Then we begrudgingly accepted it, and before you knew it, it was the only way to go. Assessing people on the most superficial level with a left or right swipe. Sit down and count the number of people you reject in one minute.
The social rules for dating change from one generation to the next.